Why Relationships Don't Last Long? Avoid These Mistakes To Keep Your Lover & Relationship
Posted: Tuesday, September 01, 2009
by Kacycarr
http://www.spotthepimple.com
Relationships are areas of life that everyone at sometime will be involved or have to deal with. Most people naturally assume that a relationship is about two people of the opposite sex, or of the same gender coming together intimately and loving the bones of each other forever and ever. "Wrong" a relationship can mean anything. It can mean that solid foundation (relationship) seen among footballers with other team players, or that strong bond people have with their dog or cat, or most common is that of the special relationship mom and dad has with their children.. Relationships can also be linked to other lifestyle issues such as alcohol and drugs. To overcome problems in any kind of relationship you need to be able to talk openly about them.
Sexual doings differ between short-term and long-term relationships. Short-term sexual relationships are distinguished by the large amount of condom use and oral sex. Relationships are important and can add meaning to one's life, that is, if you're in the right relationship with a person that tends on sticking around. Every one of us need to be with or involved with someone. Each person has an inner inbuilt biological urge to be around other people. As kids we grow up in a complicated milieu of relationships which to some degree will form who we become later in life.
There comes that time in nearly every one's life when we dream about romantic relationships, but rarely do anything other than dream on, but then we have the teenager who gets so excited and all dreamy eyed, and hey what do you know they fall madly in love and do silly things like them we mentioned earlier. Relationships are seldom easy, which is why there are books purposely written for this reason. Relationship books describe in detail about dating, living with the opposite sex or other, marriage and divorce. Popular sellers are them that learn people how to make their marriage last, how to avoid the mistakes that lead to divorce, how to have fun dating, as well as coping with hidden or tricky issues that arise through divorce. Nevertheless if you have a solid relationship then you won't need this help but still good practice to keep this information under your hat.
While a lot of young girls and boys go in search of their 'soul- mate' or chase that feeling that comes natural, they fail to notice important matters like, can they be happy in this particular relationship, and is it showing the all important signs of it being a healthy partnership,
Relationships are a two way thing and are hard work, and for them to last will take more than one shot of cupids bow.
A couple of tips on how to make your relationship last longer
A big mistake made in a relationship and reason for it going down the pan is because most people take their relationship for granted.
If you are good friends with the person you are attracted too and longing to have a relationship with, then it might be harder to express how you feel purely because of this. Nonetheless it has its perks because, at least there's not much to do in getting to know each other, or, what you do know of each other may just well put the blockers on a relationship blossoming between you both.
1. Take things easy one step at a time. Don't rush you have all the time in the world. Even if you're desperate to snog (kiss) that guy/girl, don't because more times than not speed can cause dramas like making a fool of yourself or embarrassing the other person.
2. If you were once a flirt then it has to stop. You can't expect the person you're interested in to like you fluttering your eyelashes at another. If want to keep the relationship alive then knuckle down from strangers and flirt with your own love
3. Keep your man or woman interested. Leave short notes for them to read; something simple, like ' Did I tell you how much I love you!' or 'Can't wait to see you when I get home!' It will make them excited to see you when walking through the door.
4. If you have something on your mind or any worries then discuss them with your partner. Having secrets in a relationship can cause major problems if found out.
5. If what you have to say gives rise for an argument, think about whether it is really something to argue, or not. Arguments build a relationship: they help couples remain strong, and know if they are strong enough to last, and last is what you're looking to keep in this relationship
6. Make sure to tell them that you love them every day, and remind them of their good traits if they have any.
7. Trust each other. Trust is the foundation of a relationship. Just like a house without it, it will crumble all around you and there is nothing you can do about it. It is quicker to rebuild a house than try and pick up the pieces. You have to trust someone to love them; you have to love someone to trust them.
8. Don't become over obsessive with your partner. Allow them some lea-way. This goes along the lines of the 'trust' thing: if your partner has an ex that they talk to sometimes, don't get all worked up because of it as their meeting and chit chat may be completely innocent, and mean nothing more than just being friendly for old time's sake. Jealousy is another cause of failing relationships.
At the end of the day you know what your man likes or vice versa if you're a woman, so give them what they like, and as long as it's something you like giving, then you would find it hard to get rid of them even if you wanted to
It would help having similar interests in some things as you're partner. Liking the same things will certainly help a relationship last longer. Of course not all couples likes and dislikes are ever compatible but relationships can and do still work regardless, however spending time together doing something you both enjoy... aside from the most obvious increases the odds in you being in a successful and loving relationship, and one you won't have to work at.
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