How to End A Relationship - What To Do To Finish With Your Girlfriend Boyfriend & Still Be Friends
Posted: Tuesday, February 02, 2010
by Kacycarr
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How to end a relationship - Splitting up with your boyfriend or girlfriend can be a heartbreaking time and especially more so for the person who is being dumped and didn't want the split. Breaking up with someone will always be a delicate situation that a lot of boys and girls find when finishing with their partner; either goes smoothly or downright nasty.
So you are here because you want to finish with your girlfriend or boyfriend and don't know what to say or how to go about it.
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. It's best to be up front about your feelings because you owe them that much at least. Be straight direct and compassionate, but no lies about why you want to end the relationship. If you tell the truth, then you up the odds of staying friends after going your separate ways. It's not easy telling the once love of your life you don't want to be with them anymore, and it gets even harder if the dumped party didn't see this coming. All sorts of things can rise from shock so let them down gently to avoid any nastiness if possible.
Depending on your partner and the reason for you wanting to dump them will determine the best way to go about it, so there's no yelling and shouting which is expected at times like this. But like pointed out any screaming will depend on why you want out, and the individual.
There is no guarantee when breaking off an engagement or marriage that everything will be hunky dory. Of course for most couples splitting up there will be tears so be prepared and have tissues handy.
Let's assume you want to break up with your girlfriend or boyfriend simply because you don't love them anymore and see them more as a brother or sister. What are the right things to say to your partner to say it's over? What are the best words to use to end a relationship? Both good questions, and even if you do find the right words or find a decent way to dump this person it doesn't ensure they will think the same.
If you're a guy and want to finish with your girlfriend then remember girls are sensitive and your breaking up with her will cause her pain so don't add to this by being thoughtless. She's not going to feel too good after being dumped and will need time to accept what is happening and for it to sink in. Drop her nicely, don't be rude and don't be plonker about it. Tell her why you're breaking up with her so she has closure, and just be respectful. This goes for the girl breaking off her relationship with her boyfriend. Men have feelings to so keep this in mind.
How do you go about breaking up with your boyfriend/girlfriend so no one gets hurt? You need to get clear on why you want the relationship to end.
Plan to meet for the breakup. Nothing romantic like a candlelit dinner as this will send out all the wrong signals. Can you imagine doing this because I can? The girl may see wedding bells and a proposal of marriage instead of the boot up the butt. The library where it's quiet is a good place, as it may help tame the moment and deter raised voices.
Don't do it the coward's way like some people by texting them to say it's over, say what you have to say to their face. Not only is it embarrassing for the one being dumped using a text message but embarrassing for the sender too. It just shows what a mouse you are
Don't allow the situation to get out of hand and put your partner on the defensive. Tell of your reasons why you have to end the relationship while talking about the past good times you had together and that you will fondly remember and cherish
This is a time for emotion and upset. You wouldn't expect anything else from the person whose just been kicked to the kerb. You need to respond to their needs while ending the partnership.
You too need to brace yourself for fear of hurtful things and abuse come your way. In the heat of the moment expect the unexpected. Don't take what you hear personally. People in pain don't always mean what they say.
Your girlfriend or boyfriend may need to meet with you a couple of times to accept the situation and to help them get conclusion. Give them what is needed to get them through the transition time. You're ex maybe more understanding than you imagined and put on a brave face, this doesn't mean they are happy. They will be fragile so tread carefully and choose the right words as you don't want them to get their hopes up that there is hope.
It's like being stabbed through the heart for the rejected when someone tells them they don't love or want to be with them. But it's best for both people if you keep a positive relationship still going even after the break up. Avoid shaming or blaming the other person as this could make their blood boil and only god knows what could happen then.
Think carefully about what you have to say so the other person doesn't believe there is a glimmer or of hope of getting back together. Say what you mean and mean what you say and stick with it.
Never must you feel guilty over finishing with your girlfriend/boyfriend. Don't allow guilt to come between you making the break from this person. You can't be held responsible for what you feel is the right thing to do. If you feel it's the right thing to do, then it's the right thing to do end of story so don't beat yourself up over it.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Quite a nice article. It is always nice to break up in a way that won't leave anyone hurt.Thank you Efoghor I agree with you 100%Keep wellKacy
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