Sex Education – Toddlers In Nappies Playtime Should Not Include Foreplay Teach Them to Read & Write
Posted: Friday, September 10, 2010
by Kacycarr
http://www.spotthepimple.com
I have just read a story on sex education that I found quite disturbing. Not only am I shocked, I am fuming to say the least. Once again another nonsensical proposal has been made and come to light that our kids are to be taught in school from the age of four. What is wrong with that you say, nothing is wrong with that I say, in fact it's a great idea, however when it's about sex I take a different view on the matter.
What gives these so called bright sparks with their so called bright ideas the right to lay down the law on what they believe is right for "our "children, or for better wording, babies. I mean c'mon a toddler of four who not long out of nappies talking about penises and vaginas. I don't know about you, but I would find this hard to accept. At four in my house it stays as the widgy or tuppence.
There will be those opposed to my opinion on the matter, but as a mother I believe I have earned the right to say when "my" child is ready to be prepped on sex relations. Don't get me wrong I am all for the younger generation being made aware of the risks involved when having unprotected sex etc, but that is as long as it is at an age appropriate that meets with their level of understanding.
Sex education: Below is part of the snippet that gave cause for my protest as a concerned parent.
"Mandatory sex and relationship education for children as young as four is likely to be enforced to reduce the rising teenage STI and abortion rate, according to two leading sexual health charities". These charities said children should be taught the names of body parts and about sex and relationships.
If this ruling comes into force then we as parents, well those that think like me, will feel compelled so as not to confuse the toddler have to now tell our son to put his penis away or daughter to cover up her vagina.
Children of four years old need to have a life and not taught how to create one. Kids are curious I'll give you that, but is curiosity not to blame for many an unwanted pregnancy? Give a child a gun they will use it get my drift.
I am fully aware and understand the importance of our kids being fed the invaluable information on sex education, but when the time is right. When is the right time? I am pretty sure any mother will know when her child's ears are ready to hear about making babies.
General education is vital for young children to excel in life, but cramming too much into a tiny brain, could cause problems. Most little kids have trouble remembering how to spell their name let alone having to remember the different flavours of condoms there is as well.
Let us take one step at a time for Pete's sake. How can a 4 year old follow the instructions on a condom packet if they haven't been taught how to read? Is this not the age for learning to read and write?
By all means teach the toddler about parts of the body that some consider rude, but only in manner they can relate too.
Another comment put forward by someone in support of sex education for 4 year olds said, young children will find information, and if we don't give it to them in a responsible way, they'll get it elsewhere. Of course they will just like they do with most other things in life, because that's what kids do. But I will put any amount of money on a four year old being more interested in eating chocolate before swatting in a library to find out about sexually transmitted diseases.
While it is true kids learn from others (teachers), but shouldn't those others be mom and dad. You know your own child best and therefore qualify to make judgement as to when you think your child is ready for sex talk of the serious sort.
Children differ greatly in their behaviour towards learning. Some toddlers pick up things more quickly than others, so this could pose a problem here.
Most adults will have said at some time around their children that "little kids should be seen and not heard". This is usually said if you are either gossiping about someone, keeping a secret from them, but more times than not talking about something of a sexual nature. And why do you do this, simply because you don't want them to hear. Why when you want to protect your child till a time you think they are ready, is a complete stranger allowed to defy your wishes?
I think a four year old should see their friend as a friend and not a sexual partner.
Ministers in Scotland and Wales say they have no plans to make sex relation lessons compulsory at the moment. Could these ministers have children? Some charity workers and MPs in on this proposal are like childless midwives who have the cheek to shout at women giving birth to stop moaning. What would they know?
If these people care for the welfare of our children, then they should know four year old toddlers don't need to know about foreplay, but the type of play they can look back on and remember as having a good childhood
I am a strong believer in nipping something in the bud (STDs and unwanted pregnancy) but in this case please let our babies' have time to blossom.
How to tell a young child about sex
If they start getting inquisitive and asking questions about sex which usually happens around the age of 10, of course this would depend on the child, then there is no better time to put them in the picture.
Don't be nervous and keep things simple.
As they become more curious you can explain to them the appropriate names of their private parts and explain what they are there for.
Talk about this naturally as if you were talking about their homework. Let them know that the discussion is always open and you are there if they need to talk, and to answer their questions and address any concerns. Be the first to tell them about sex, so to avoid them being misinformed by others in the playground.
If your child is not the curious type then it does not mean they don't want to know. You could approach them from time to time to make sure they get know what they need to know to stay safe and healthy, only make sure they are over the age of four.
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Top-level comments on this article: (1 total)Kacycarr,I would like to thank you for writing such a wonderful retort. I too, like many other parents, do agree with you. I feel as if a four year old child should be learning how to count, read, write, difference between colors, how to tie their shoes and yes even the names of their body parts. I do not agree that a four year old should be taught about sex. There is a time and place for everything and in no place should a four year old child be taught about sex.I saw an article, which was based in a country outside the USA, that said it is educational and bonding to fondle toddlers and small children by "massaging their private parts". I do believe that the sex education of small children was mentioned in the same article. I was livid when I read this!
What has this world come to?Hi PK thank you for dropping by to comment and its also good that you feel the same way too, but then ain't all mothers supposed to be right, well two any way up till now.Keep wellKacy
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